3 Lies About Sex

Believe it or not God created sex. In Genesis God told Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply. He wasn’t talking about gardening. Too many times sex is not talked about because it has such a bad stigma connected to it. Yes God created sex, but the Devil has perverted it. The world gives so many messages about sex that are wrong, while too often the body of Christ avoids talking about it all together. This lack of conversation about what God honoring sex looks like leads to so many problems in this world especially with our young people. So let's talk about sex!

The world lies about sex a lot! The 3 most popular lies I see about sex are; Lust, Pornography and Sex before or outside of marriage (Fornication/Adultery).

Lust

Lust is our first lie about sex. Lust is when you actively fantasize about sex in a way that is not honoring God. A lot of people may say that it is okay to lust. They may say something like, "your not hurting anyone, it's all in your head and it's not real". We have to understand that lust is a lie and a tool that the Devil uses to distract us and get us off course. Jesus explains in Matthew 5:28 that if we even think about having sex outside of the way God designed it, in marriage between a man and a woman, then we are wrong! Jesus is drawing a clear boundary to keep us from falling into the trap of sexual impurity. Jesus knows that our minds are a powerful tool, and that if it is focus on lustful things then we will eventually give in.

Pornography

Pornography is the next lie about sex. Pornography is an over exaggerated image of what sex is. It's not real. It burns images in our minds and causes reoccurring thoughts that are not God honoring. Some people may also say that it's ok to view pornography, that it doesn't hurt anyone, but that's a lie. Pornography has destroyed marriages, caused loss jobs, and has perverted the minds of millions of people. Not too many people fight against this silent killer. I have heard that over 80% of men who are active in church struggle with some form of pornography. These are men who actively seek God, so I can only imagine how many deal with pornography outside of the church. Pornography eats away from the inside out, and causes so much damage especially when it’s hidden. I have heard that pornography, and other hidden sins, are like mold; they grow best in dark places, and if it is ignored it causes major damage. When I was a slave to pornography I did almost anything to gain access to it and to keep it hidden. All this was going on while I was actively involved in church as a teen and even into my first year or so of college. I knew I was saved and that I was going to heaven, but never started to experience God truly move in my life until I exposed the my secret sin and got the help I needed to become free. Through the conviction of the Holy Spirit and the help of other brothers who pulled me out of the darkness I can proudly say that I have been free from the chains of pornography going on 9 years. Freedom from the lie of pornography can really happen, but you have to fight for it.   

Fornication & Adultery

Fornication and Fornication and adultery are probably the biggest lies about sex. If your not clear what they are: Fornication is sex before marriage, also known as premarital sex, and Adultery is when a married person has sex with someone who is not their husband or wife, whether their spouse agrees with it or not. The lies of fornication and adultery have destroyed many lives. Fornication and adultery promises an extremely pleasurable experience and or a stronger bond in a relationship, but it falls short every time. Everything is great and feels wonderful in the moment, but not too long after guilt, shame, regret and the temptation to hide or cover up zaps away all of whatever pleasure you thought you gained from the experience. God created sex to be a PART of marriage. It is used to unite a man and a woman and to HELP in creating a closer bond between them (Genesis 2:24). When a man and wife have sex they are connected on a deep spiritual level that is hard to explain, so when sex is treated as just another recreational activity it can do a lot of damage. “Using protection” doesn't stop the deep spiritual and emotional connection from happening. Using protection during sex may help protect from diseases but it CANNOT protect the soul from the emotional and spiritual pain sex outside of marriage WILL bring. Sex outside of marriage, whether fornication or adultery, does so much damage because it connects people on levels that are way deeper than physical. (Genesis. 2:23-25; Matthew 5:27-28; Matthew 19:4-6; Mark 10:6-8)

Sex is to be cherished and respected. If you have gone too far it’s not to late to turn from that lifestyle. God’s grace is abundant and he loves you no matter what you have done. Make the change today and surround yourself with people who can help you. In the next post we will talk about 3 ways that we can fight against these lies about sex.